Kama Sutra for 21st Century Lovers Anne Hooper
PDF Descargar Taoist thinkers advocate that sexual stimulation should be protracted in order to reach
the highest levels of arousal. This is not just for sensual pleasure; its main purpose is to
promote sexual health and energy. The Tao of Sex is one of eight pillars of Taoist wisdom,
and Taoist sexology aims to improve health, harmonize relationships, and increase
spiritual realization (see also p.123). Thus the correct application of Taoist sex techniques
is to restore the body’s energy, and the ultimate Taoist aim is to prolong life itself—the
logical result of this being immortality.
In this context, the ancient Chinese perceived lovemaking as an art form, and some
of the names of the positions are wonderfully artistic—the Galloping Horse,
Butterflies in Flight, Swallows in Love, and Silkworm Spinning a Cocoon are all
intensely visual, evocative descriptions.
FOR THE READER
My aim in this edition of the Kama Sutra is to offer readers a 21st-century slant
on the sexual advice contained in these ancient writings. These days, it seems to
be women who buy books about sex (mainly to give to their men, I suspect),
so I have adapted this volume to contain advice for both men and women.
There are also some essential points to remember to get the best out of
your lovemaking. The Kama Sutra makes absolutely clear the importance
of comfort and aesthetics in your allotted room for love, which should be
“balmy with rich perfumes… a bed, soft and agreeable to the sight, covered
with a white cloth, low in the middle part, having garlands and flowers upon
it….” Cleaning the body, relaxing the mind, dimming the lights, and playing
sensual music all figure in the love plan. Since Vatsyayana’s excellent advice is
here being projected onto the 21st century, I would suggest the addition of a
glass or two of champagne, a light meal, the gift of playful massage, and oceans
of unhurried time. Unfortunately, the 20th century speeded up the lovemaking
experience, thanks to the convenience of the contraceptive pill and the demands
of everyday stress. But Vatsyayana knew that the best love ingredients of all are to be nonpressuring,
non-demanding, and simply sensual—much better aims for this new century.
While I have included, wherever possible, the Victorian translators’ eloquent language
to retain a touch of its unique flavor, my commentary brings a modern perspective to
these ancient sex positions that lovers today can relate to. This sometimes includes a
certain irreverence on my part when, for example, I mention that a particular sexual
position can be enjoyed only by the most supple of acrobats! And the humor inherent in
many of the original descriptions of sex positions is irresistible. You might find that Kama’s
Wheel may not do a lot for your orgasms, but you’ll have fabulous fun performing it!
I hope that, as well as learning skillful techniques, readers will be reminded of the fact
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that sex can be spiritually uplifting. If you believe this, I hope you will welcome the idea
of using loving sex as a gateway to spirituality. Ultimately, I hope that you, the reader, will
gain new insights into your own character and behavior by browsing through this book
and picking up some wonderful practical tips to enable you to make amazing love to your
adored partner.With any luck, you will feel some of his/her gain, too.
The Kama Sutra
teaches that sensual
and sexual pleasures
delight the senses
and revive the spirit.
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Skin—the largest organ—covers the entire body in nerve endings. When sensitive areas
are stroked, these nerve endings get stimulated and pockets of explosive sensation
erupt.These touch-sensitive areas are known as erogenous zones.
Nape of neck The breasts
The author of the Kama Sutra,
Vatsyayana, gave good advice to male
lovers eager to explore their partner’s
erogenous zones: “He should always
make a point of pressing those parts
of her body on which she turns her
eyes.” This makes sense when you realize that not every
woman gains erotic feeling from breast and nipple
sensation. Thus the man should take his cue from
the woman’s reaction (or lack of it) when softly
stroking her breasts.
What Vatsyayana did not say in the Kama Sutra was
that many men also feel fantastic sensations from
breast and nipple play.
If your nipples react to being kissed, sucked, and
licked by your partner, they quickly become very sensual
and exciting points of stimulus for you. You may enjoy
having your breasts squeezed and massaged gently
instead. If you don’t feel very much when you are
stroked directly on the breasts or nipples, ask your
lover to try stroking the sides of your breasts delicately,
which can sometimes invoke more sensations.
Let your woman run her fingers softly around
your nipples and then brush her fingertips from side
to side across the top so that her fingers actually leave
the nipples before going back in the opposite direction.
You may be excited by the way your body reacts to
these sensations, and even more so if your woman
begins these actions slowly and then speeds up.
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of her hand, which will make you feel
pleasantly manipulated. If you want a
stronger sensation, tell her it is fine if
she moves more of your body than
your buttock muscles with her hands.
Being stroked on your buttocks softly can feel deeply
sensual and erotic. So, too, can your man’s spanking
you lightly with the flat of his hand. A little gentle
spanking that stings very slightly arouses the blood
and makes the body tingle. Your man could bear in
mind that it’s also an exciting turn-on when it comes
as a surprise, as long as it is done gently.
For both sexes, the buttocks can awaken primitive
sexual urges in our brains—an instinct we share with
our “cousins” the apes.Women tend to find men’s
buttocks sexier than the penis, and men have been
known to be turned on by simply looking at a woman’s
buttocks. Small wonder that touching, caressing, and
stroking your lover in this area can give such pleasure,
not just to your partner, but also to yourself.
Your woman need not be afraid of touching you
firmly; some men have such powerful musculature that
their buttocks feel quite hard when handled. She might
try moving your buttocks in circles underneath the flat
The extraordinary fact about foot
massage is that it provokes incredible
sensations over the body, especially
in the sensitive inner thigh area.
The ball of each foot should be kneaded
to penetrate the outer layers of skin. Strong finger
manipulation across the area under your toes provokes
powerful prickles of sensuality. Your partner can run a
lubricated finger sensuously between each of your toes
to transmit sensations directly to your genitals.
Ask your lover to hold the heel of your foot in one hand
and gently grasp the toes with the other hand, then
slowly rotate your foot in the fullest circle possible.
This triggers sensual nerves in the inner thighs.
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Floating in a warm bath soothes and stabilizes certain
vital organs and helps you feel relaxed, so taking a bath
with your lover is a perfect preliminary to lovemaking.
The attention you give each other’s bodies lulls you
both into a deepening sense of security and intimacy.
Grooming and massage
Many lovers play slippery sex games in the shower, but everyday actions such as bathing
and shampooing can be more than just fun. Grooming each other in preparation for
lovemaking can be tender yet charged with eroticism as you rediscover one another’s
bodies, while a well-performed massage is no less than a sexual experience in itself.
You may enjoy the thrill of feeling like a naughty little boy
again as your woman soaps your body. Your excitement can
only increase as she stretches down into the water and explores
those intimate parts of your body that may be harder to reach.
Relax and let your partner devote his attentions to exploring
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your wet body with his hands and eyes. By soaping you and
rubbing you delicately all over, he can make your skin tingle
and subtly arouse you both mentally and physically.
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Feet and legs
For massage oil, the 4th-century readers of the Kama Sutra
would have used a natural oil such as almond or coconut,
perfumed with essence of rose, jasmine, patchouli, ylang-ylang,
or sandalwood. You might add a dozen drops of one of these
to 2 tablespoons (30 ml) of the base oil. Start by massaging
the toes. Stretch, knead, and bend each one, then rub between
them. Stroke along the foot and up the leg. Stretch the leg by
bending it at the knee before moving on to the inner thigh.
The fragranced oil and the feel of your partner’s
warm hands are deeply relaxing. The higher her
hands travel up your legs, the more you will become
aroused as your body and mind concentrate on her
repetitive stroking patterns.
Your lover can use his thumbs to cover your feet with
tiny circles—a highly sensuous stroke. He can excite
you further by kissing each of the circles he has created.
Strong massage strokes can stimulate the buttocks, so
relax them first with deep kneading. Make sure there
is enough massage oil on your hands so they slip
smoothly across the surface of your lover’s skin.
After the initial deep strokes, your partner can glide her hands
from the top of your thighs over your buttocks, leaning her
body weight into the strokes. You should experience this as a
rush of sensation, especially if her strokes are tantalizingly slow.
Your partner can try firm circling strokes, then light strokes
with the whole hand, fingertip strokes, and finally he can use his
fingernails to scratch your skin softly. This can feel sensational.
Circling Use your palms in a
circular motion, either large or
small, on your partner’s body.
Fingertips Continue the circling
movement, but use the fingertips.
Sexual strokes Use your fingernails
instead of your fingertips for these
light strokes (called feathering)
on your partner’s hot spots.
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Back and spine
The golden rule of back massage is to place your
hands on either side of the spine, but never directly
on it. Begin by covering the back with circular
strokes,moving away from the spine. This helps to
smooth away the pressures of the day so you can
start your lovemaking in a relaxed state of mind.
Keep your strokes slow and sexy.
Some men hold a lot of tension in their muscles, so their
skin feels particularly taut. For massage to make any real
impression on an “armored” male, he needs deep pressure.
Ask your woman to put her entire body weight behind her
strokes to ease your stiff muscles. But not all men hold
such tension in their bodies and may prefer lighter strokes.
Ask your woman to use the type of stroke that will relieve
your tension best.
If you are thin and delicately boned, you’ll have very little
flesh that your man’s strong hands can manipulate, so ensure
that his strokes are not too strong and forceful, or you may
end up being bruised rather than pleasured. Your partner
should make use of light palm-skimming and fingertip
treatment to make your skin tingle and feel alive.
Using massage oil
You don’t need to use a massage oil, but your
strokes will be smooth and erotic if your
hands are coated with a sweet-smelling oil.
Either buy a prepared massage oil or make
up your own (see p.15). The visual and
sensual appeal of shiny, slippery skin can
be immensely arousing.
“… apply a limited quantity
of ointments, perfume to
the body, eat betel leaves
that give fragrance to the
mouth, bathe daily, anoint
your body with oil every
other day and remove the
sweat of the armpits.”
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Arms and torso
Use a light circling stroke across the chest. Starting at the
shoulders, stroke down along the torso. Move the breasts
in circles, then trace your fingertips around the breasts
and nipples.When you reach the stomach and pelvis,
move your hands to the thighs and circle them slowly
toward the pubic area. Then work up across the
abdomen and ribs and end by massaging the breasts
and shoulders once more. To massage an arm, wrap
your hands around it and pull them, one hand after
the other, down along the arm several times.
Ensure that your lover’s hands are well coated with oil so they slip
across your responsive skin. Light strokes feel most enticing and
erotic. Many women enjoy breast massage immensely, but don’t
focus on this alone. Nerve endings in the arms and hands can be
enlivened by touch and send out erotic feelings to the entire torso.
Women are often unaware that many men possess
extremely responsive nipples. A chest massage is the
perfect time to discover how sensitive yours may be.
Your partner can bring added eroticism to the massage
by applying gentle pressure around your groin area.
Shoulders and head
Massage the neck and shoulders first, offering
a light thumb and forefinger massage to move
the flesh across and around the powerful neck
muscles that hold up the head. Then, using
thumb and fingertips, move up into the hairline
and work your way across the top of the head.
After the preliminary head massage, your man can use
light thumb-circling on your temples, then cover your
forehead with tiny fingertip circles. Such delicate strokes
help you to relax and focus on touch. He can use his
forefingers to circle across your cheeks (avoiding the eye
area) and down under your chin, then stroke his hands
along your neck and back to your breasts to arouse you.
For many men, the head and shoulder massage not only
affects the immediate site of the massage, but also sends
out prickles of pleasure across the rest of the body. It can
be very pleasurable if your partner shampoos your hair as
she massages, working into the roots of your hair and scalp.
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The bent kiss
Place your hand around your partner’s neck to guide
their mouth toward yours. This is a natural and gentle
preliminary kiss in which the lovers’ faces are angled
easily and comfortably toward each other.
For a kiss to work well, it needs to be light enough to allow
for lip movement. Your woman may like to pucker her lips,
then relax them. Such movement signifies her erotic response
to you and will begin to stoke the fires of your passion.
Your lover could turn your face to one side as he kisses you (so
his cheek presses on yours), then turn it back (so his lips roll
back onto yours). This sensual move gives a feeling of intimacy.
The turned kiss
This kiss should be performed by the tallest partner,
usually the man. Hold your lover’s chin and turn her
face up to meet your kiss. Use this kiss to initiate sex
or while making love slowly in a face-to-face position.
If, like many women, you find this move very sexy, your
passion will be fired by this romantic, tactile gesture. If you are
panicked by such manipulation, place your hand on his chest
as a barrier to show him he should move on to something else.
Kiss your lover gently and try to tune in to her response. If
she throws her arms around you, you know you have gotten
it right and you can kiss with more passion and urgency.
Kissing stimulates the senses of touch, taste, and smell and inspires strong emotions.The
author of the Kama Sutra,Vatsyayana, recognized kissing as an art form and described in
detail a variety of kisses for different occasions, be it a light, almost casual brushing of lips
or a deep, penetrating experience in which a couple remains locked in a long embrace.
The straight kiss
For this kiss, your faces are level rather than angled to
one side, so tongue penetration is impractical. This is
a gentle way to show affection and express desire.
The pressed kiss
This kiss, not often used in the West, is perhaps
one we should experiment with a little more. One
lover holds the other’s lower lip, touches it with
their tongue, and then kisses it “with great force.”
This highly erotic and intense exercise can be used as a prelude
to deep kissing—a kind of “playing with the lips.” Look into
your lover’s eyes as you press her lower lip, to increase her
passion and signal the release of your own suppressed desires.
This kiss is light enough to withdraw from, should that be your
immediate instinct, without causing damage to the relationship.
This security can be helpful when getting to know a new lover.
for him and her
Don’t be afraid of staying with this kiss for a while. It offers
you time in which to feel comfortable with intimacy before
moving on to something deeper. If it feels natural, take such
innocent kisses further into a more sexual and erotic exchange.
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Apply kisses lightly to the swell of
each breast and, if the mood takes
you, turn your kisses into gentle
sucking or nibbling. Don’t be afraid
to pay a lot of attention to the nipples
and the sides of the breasts. Stimulate
your partner’s genitals while kissing
this area for maximum impact.
Some men find their breasts only become
sensitive once their genitals are stimulated.
Others have the opposite experience. Take no
chances and ask for both areas to be caressed
as your woman snuggles up to you.
You will enjoy your man gently licking or
biting his way from your sensitive abdomen
to your breasts. His fingers can caress the
lower side of your breasts while his mouth
covers the top and nipples with tiny kisses.
The lips are sensitive to kissing, but so
are other sites on the body, especially
those close to the genitals.Vatsyayana
says that “kissing is of four kinds:
moderate, contracted, pressed and
soft, according to the different parts
of the body which are kissed, for
different kinds of kisses are appropriate
for different parts of the body.”
Moderate kisses These are measured, without too
much intensity, such as a tender kiss on the back
or a smooching progression up along the spine.
Contracted kisses Little staccato kisses are used
in this technique in which you apply your lips
to the skin, then quickly pull away in a playful,
affectionate manner. You might lavish these on
your partner’s buttocks or thighs.
Pressed kisses Apply gentle pressure while
holding your mouth on your partner’s body
for a moment. Make it feel as if you are almost
reluctant to withdraw your lips.
Soft kisses The most tender, gentle kiss, with
which you just brush your partner’s skin, is the
soft kiss. Lavish these on sensitive areas such as the
neck and throat, moving down toward the chest.
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Kissing and licking
Tongue bathing only works well when performed
on a hot, balmy evening or in an unusually warm
room since once your body is damp, it begins to
feel the cold quickly. However, kissing and licking
your way up and down your partner’s body can
be an extremely sensual experience for you both.
for him and her
Pay special attention to those sensitive areas such as the
breasts and nipples, the insides of the thighs, and the
backs of the knees to heighten the sense of anticipation.
The greater the self-control you practice as you delay
penetration with this artful foreplay, the richer the
rewards when it does happen.
Kama Sutra kisses
Among the Kama Sutra’s many descriptions
of kissing are:
• The demonstrative kiss, given when “at night, at
a theater, or in an assembly of caste men, a man
coming up to a woman kisses a finger of her hand
if she be standing, or a toe of her foot if she be
sitting, or when a woman is shampooing her lover’s
body, places her face on his thigh (as if she were
sleepy) so as to inflame his passion, and kisses his
thigh or great toe.”
• The transferred kiss, which is when a person “kisses
a child sitting on his lap, or a picture, or an image, or
figure, in the presence of the person beloved by him.”
• The kiss showing intention, when a person “kisses
the reflection of the person he loves in a mirror, in
water or on a wall.”
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Licking up the labia
Pass the broad blade of your tongue
along and between the labia majora
(large lips). Run your tongue up and
down these crevices several times.
Using first shallow strokes and then
deeper and deeper ones, move the
tip of your tongue up and down
inside the opening of her vagina,
as well as in and out of it.
Licking the clitoris
With the tip of your tongue, coat
the clitoris with moisture by licking
upward only. Try licking up one
side of the clitoris and then the
other rather than directly on it.
Many women find there is more
sensation on the left side.
Twirling on the clitoris head
Using the tip of your tongue, circle the
top of the clitoris very lightly. Try this
in a clockwise then a counterclockwise
motion. Some women are extremely
sensitive and find that this action
blunts their sensation, so be prepared
The Kama Sutra does not appear to consider cunnilingus a particularly interesting
activity since there is only one brief reference to it in the original manuscript. In the
21st century, however, cunnilingus constitutes a valuable—and, for some, essential—
element of a satisfactory sexual experience.
The natural state of the
vagina, when stimulated, is
to become lubricated, which
then spontaneously facilitates
penetration. It also triggers
sexual sensations in a woman.
Try lovemaking without this
natural lubrication and it
immediately becomes obvious
that the experience is a painful
and distinctly unerotic one for
the woman. Human saliva is
close to the consistency of
natural vaginal fluid, and if the
woman’s vaginal lips are coated
with saliva, it will immediately
encourage her arousal.
There are different
techniques a man can use to
vary the sensations his woman
feels (see right). Your woman
may prefer some over others.
Use her responses to guide
you as you perfect these
techniques and develop
some more of your own.
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“A man should always
make a point of pressing
those parts of a woman’s
body on which she turns
The clitoris is probably the most sensitive nerve
center of a woman’s body. For cunnilingus to work
well, you should position yourself between your
woman’s legs so you can cover her clitoris and
genital lips with the broad blade of your tongue.
Stroke your tongue upward over the shaft and
head of the clitoris, then stimulate each side of the
clitoris in turn, always working from the base to
the top. Using featherlike strokes on the head of the
clitoris and flicking the underside from side
to side with the tip of your tongue will give your
woman maximum pleasure and help her to climax.
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In the Kama Sutra,Vatsyayana defines auparishtaka, or “mouth congress,” as an activity
predominantly practiced by eunuchs on their masters. He describes how “eunuchs
disguised as males keep their desires secret and when they wish to do anything they
lead the life of a shampooer.”Vatsyayana goes on to explain that under the pretense of
shampooing (washing and massaging the body), the eunuch fondles and excites his
master, eventually pleasuring him with eight kinds of fellatio, one after the other. In the
21st century, fellatio is practiced by many heterosexual couples and is considered an
enticing addition to a woman’s repertoire of lovemaking skills.
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The woman starts fellatio by
licking her man’s penis as if
it were an ice-cream cone. She
holds the base of the penis in
one hand and, using the blade
of her tongue, repeatedly
licks upward, first on one
side and then on the other.
The eight kinds of fellatio
Vatsyayana’s eunuchs turned fellatio into a game. Every time they finished
performing one of these eight variations, they would stop and wait until
their master asked for more before continuing on to the next technique.
Insert half of the penis into
your mouth and suck it.
up the penis
Put the whole penis into
your mouth as if you are
about to swallow it.
Kissing the penis
Kiss the penis while
holding it in your hand.
Rubbing the penis
Touch the penis all over with
your tongue and mouth.
Press the end of the penis
gently with your lips and
draw it out.
Put the end of the penis
into your mouth before
pressing it with your lips
Place the head of the penis
between your lips and
move it around.
Biting the sides
Gently nibble on the
shaft of the penis.
The “butterfly flick” is an
up-to-date addition to fellatio
techniques. The woman holds
her man’s penis steady with one
hand while she flicks her tongue
lightly from side to side along
the ridge on the underside
of his penis.
WI D E LY O P E N E D
P O S I T I O N
In this position, in which the woman arches her back so
that her pelvis moves up to join the man, she can make
it very clear how eager she is for penetration.
As you lean back on your elbows, you will gain the
perfect opportunity to gaze into your lover’s face and
watch his excitement. Face-to-face positions like this can
be emotionally arousing, although this one is extremely
tiring.Avoid it if you suffer from a bad back.
This position reduces the amount of force needed to
thrust because it means you don’t have to push too far.
It allows for shallow thrusts that won’t exhaust you and
can last for as long as your woman has the strength to
keep her back curved. Don’t expect her to last too
long in this position, though.
The author of the Kama Sutra
described man-on-top positions in
which the woman’s legs are open
wide, allowing the man to move in
close. He never mentions the clitoris,
but is certain to have known how it
functions; these positions allow for
maximum clitoral stimulation by
the man’s penis and abdomen.
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Female surrender Many women instinctively
open their legs wide for penetration and, with this gesture, offer themselves
to a lover. The Yawning Posture and variations allow for such surrender.
What begins as a straightforward
man-on-top position can evolve
quite easily into the Yawning
Posture. By lifting her legs and
opening her thighs, the woman
enables her man to place his
knees on either side of her hips
and lean gently against
her to thrust.
Your great advantage is that you are looking down, able
to see powerful sexual emotion on your lover’s face.
Although your movement is impeded by the barrier of
her thighs, it’s worth remembering that not all erotic
stimulation is about localized genital friction.
Good sex includes the idea of sex as
well as the actuality.
Although this position feels erotic, it does not provide
you with too much sensation.The barrier of your uplifted
thighs doesn’t allow for deep penetration, so your
clitoris will not receive much stimulation. However,
the undeniable eroticism and helplessness you feel
in this position can be a powerful turn-on.
T H E YAWN I N G P O S T U R E
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T H E C R A B ’ S P O S I T I O N
To get into this pleasurable position, the woman bends her knees
and draws her thighs to her stomach (like a crab retracting its
claws).When “letting go” playfully in positions like this, we get
to know each other’s innermost feelings and likes and dislikes.
By bending and drawing back your knees, you make the muscles
in your upper thighs contract. Every push your partner makes on
your knees transfers to the thighs and on to the genital area, so
that each thrust heightens your pelvic tension and enjoyment.
This particular position helps constrict the vagina around the
penis and therefore offers a little more localized sensation
than the Widely Opened Position. Help yourself to thrust more
rhythmically by holding your partner’s knees against your chest.
T H E LOT U S L I K E P O S I T I O N
To get into the Lotuslike Position,
the woman crosses her legs and draws
them up toward her torso before the
man leans over to penetrate her. This
position may be a joke, since the
strain imposed on the limbs makes it
highly unlikely to be pleasurable. The
few who can meet such a challenge
may find it hard to sustain such a
difficult position for
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